To Fear: "Is that your best punch?"

"Choosing love, not fear, is where true power comes from. Having the innate compassion, deciding to act, and refusing to give up. The process of spotting fear and refusing to obey it is the source of all true empowerment.

Real power is usually unspectacular, a simple setting aside of fear that allows the free flow of love. But it changes everything."

- Martha Beck, A Course in Miracles


Dori says...

In this world of uncertainty, even if we choose to be optimistic, events usually happen that will somehow try to shutter whatever light and good feelings we have shining through in our day. Things like bills unpaid, a project not pushing through, a bad weather ruining a planned travel, an emergency expense, an unmet deadline. True, having faith works wonders believing that eventually it will get better no matter how gloomy it looks, but not all the time especially when we let fear creep in. Fear of being hurt, fear of being judged wrongly, fear of what other people would say, fear of losing one's identity, fear of not meeting your own self expectations.

When I am gripped with fear, I only have this question I ask myself - Where would this fear bring me? Usually I get the answer - NOWHERE. It's either I have to stay status quo or be hanging indefinitely, which I both dread being in because it feels like staying in purgatory waiting for the final judgment, if there is even such a place. It's of course not bad to stay as is and be content at what's at hand at the moment, and certainly it's part and parcel of life that we go through waiting time and enter the School of Patience.

I am surely re-learning the trusting instincts of a child. To walk and not be afraid to stumble and fall. To scream and not be afraid of being heard. To dance wildly and not care about looking foolish. To love with all cards laid down and not fear losing. To shower in the rain and not fear getting soaked. To laugh out loud and fear not being thought of as insane.

It's about trusting trust and loving love. Try it. Just do. Like I'm getting accustomed to doing now, with you around, and it always turns out exciting, no matter what the result is, because experiencing is what really counts.

And that's the only assurance there is. Because I have found the person whom the Lord is making right for me and subsequently makes me aligned along that purpose.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?" -Marianne Williamson


Auj says...


Why do we fear? In this world, the feeling of fear comes in when the realization strikes us that we can never be in total control of anything and everything. However, within the boundaries of this fear, the spirit of confidence arises when we are provoked to still manage and handle all types of eventualities which could possibly arise in every moment.

When we refrain from living in fear, that is the only time we begin to be true to ourselves. To live authentic. To live with certainty, which others think is utterly impossible.

We forget that once we become certain of ourselves, all the rest of the good things happen. Our mind becomes more clear. We start learning how to live in the present. We suddenly understand how to define limits and boundaries when it has been long wrongly perceived that to be fearless is to know no boundaries. Fearless is not synonymous to knowing no rules. Courage comes with discipline. We start to nurture compassion within our hearts for our own selves, for others, and anything else that surrounds the space we live in.

Let us forget about being anxious of things of this world that we can never ever be in control of contrary to what society dictates us that we can. Once we embrace the idea that we cannot control everything, but only acknowledge that we are capable of confronting the moment and the rest of the eventualities posed to us by things and scenarios which we cannot control, to live in the present --- are the most potent ways for us to watch our fear evaporate into thin air and be introduced to freedom.


I fear nothing because your love assures me everything that's good and lovely and amazing.

And two became one

"Spiritual partnership does not necessarily require religious belief, but does require people who work together for "something more." In practical terms, we're talking about getting to know yourself—getting to know what you're feeling, what you're thinking, what you're intending, what your fears are, and what your loves are. That is, what it means while you're walking on earth.

Spiritual growth and meaningful relationships develop together. In other words, the journey to your soul requires the courage to create relationships of substance and depth. These are spiritual partnerships – partnerships between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth.

A spiritual partnership strives for more than just marital vows to provide material comfort. If you want to have the kind of relationship that your heart yearns for, you have to create it. You can't depend on somebody else creating it for you.

Spiritual partnerships have four main requirements—commitment, compassion, courage and conscious communication.

Are you in a spiritual partnership? The first step to finding out is to write down five words that describe your marriage. If you're not married, describe the relationship that you're in right now."

- Gary Zukav




Dori says...


Five words, hmm..


Loving.

Fulfilling.

Challenging.

Meaningful.

Unpredictable.

By loving fully, we become fulfilled and challenges we face together make life so much meaningful no matter how unpredictable it may be.

So, are we on the right track? :-)


May we both be watchful that no animosity or fear ruin the rhythm of our nicely choreographed dance. May we not be engulfed by complacency. May we stir away from false assumptions and worldly temptations. May we not grow apart amidst our individuality. May we not lose focus on that one true thing in this life - that is to become God's glory.


Grace and miracles have been our constant visitors, and I'd surely want them as permanent residents in our new abode. Thank you for unceasingly magnifying the Lord's touch just by your presence in my life.



I love you. More. And more. Each day. Everyday. And always.

Auj says...

The best thing about me is you. -Shannon Crown


Never did I believe that love is easy. And I am so grateful I learned and tasted its bitter fruit early on. Yes, it could be as that disgusting. Just come to think of it. We have traditionally used the word "falling" in love which is so ironically masochistic and ends up as something sadistic if eventually, you get your heart broken by the very person whom you felt completed the wholeness in you then. Aren't we all crazy?

However, nothing could be better than tasting it for yourself, learning from it, knowing what it is, and how it should be treated. Love.

I strive to become a good person for this love that embraces my life right now for the noble reason that it is the very essence that made me a good person again. Many say that to become one is to acknowledge that you are actually two. And that there is so much more to share if we would take the time to merge the goodness that God has planted in us, that is Him. That goodness which we can never earn, but can only be given by Him. Hence, we become good to each other. We then turn out to be good ourselves.

More than you will ever learn about how much I love you, I put you on a pedestal higher than myself. I give you my highest respect and trust just because you give it to me naturally as well. Like grace. You don't make things hard for me because even before I can prove things, I know, deep within myself, that you have already believed. Always, when we talk, I can see your heart embracing mine sincerely, like how we restfully embrace in love at the end of each day.

If there's one thing...

I want to let you know at this point in our everyday race, that I have never really made it well with love. I have always been a subversive wave trying to break free from the vast shore which was actually broken pieces of me everywhere. But with someone like you existing around me, I realized that it was worth again fighting and risking everything for.

I'm glad you were the greatest risk of my life.

For it felt so much better than risking for nothing.

It has been utterly overwhelming. But the right track is definitely where we are right now.