Just When You Think You Hate Your Mother Or Your Mother Hates You

Remembering our mothers should not be just done each time there is a cause to celebrate Mother’s Day. If you can say I love you freely to your mother or you can hug her anytime, then you are so privileged. But for those who have unhealed relationships with their mother, I know how difficult the process can be. However, it is all worth it when you reach reconciliation.

As a blossoming woman, I can remember a lot of times when I argued a lot with my mother. Didn’t we all reach that point in our lives when we feel that they are trying to control us too much? Now, that I am ‘just like’ a mother to Pio, I actually understand that it was just my mother’s way of intruding in my life to stay connected with her own child. The lesson: Do not take it personal.

When you experience a shift of perspective in your life, you can expect a lot of good difference coming your way. There is nothing wrong for a child to express how they feel towards anything that they disagree about with their parents. In fact, you must congratulate yourself once you see them talking about how they feel. But this does not mean that you should let your children walk over you too and for parents to push your kids around.

It is way much better when it comes to my relationship with my mother right now. The anger that we may have felt for each other was just part of expressing acceptance toward the normal process of finally separating. But once we found ourselves already comfortable with my growing independence as her daughter, we then became close again.

Hope everyone had a nice and sweet Mother’s Day!

Thief in the Night

It is certainly hard to hit the right sense of balance in life; especially when it involves raising a kid who will soon become a stubborn adult like all of us. Lately, I have been getting things from Pio without his knowledge which I think he does not value much. And I have been constantly in the lookout for his possible reactions, attitude, and behavior with what could have been happening around him.

My guess is that he knows I may have kept some of his things already but he just does not want to bring the issue up because of pride. There are just some people out there in the world who always want other people around them feel that they are doing fine even if they aren’t.

Apart from the desire of seeing Pio learn from such things and instances, I find myself learning so much more too. Many of us fail to appreciate and give value even to the small things that we have in our lives. That is why I feel grateful and mature that even the smell of clean sheets, old books, seeing Dori sleep in a big, lifted bed, Tita enjoying our flat TV, Pio already enrolled for school, or the sight of my dogs happily strolling around the house well fed and healthy – all these and more make me feel happy grateful. This is probably because we stumble upon happiness only when we find meaning.

Procrastination is not just the thief of time. It’s the thief of meaning, our happiness and life itself. – Timothy A. Pychyl

No wonder God is also described in the Bible as a thief in the night. It says that Jesus is to come back like a thief in the night, when you least expect it. What would you do if one day you’d wake up to a day that all the things and people you often disregarded and failed to appreciate and value are taken away from you? Just like that, in a snap of a finger.

Or maybe by the time you have finished reading this entry, you are already decided to review your life quick and get back all that once was yours.

Easy, Sleepy Mondays

If there is a problem to deal with Mondays is that we are too sleepy to get up, start the week and work. It is just such a blessing to sleep especially when you would look back on days when life’s problems keep you awake for several days. I believe it is as precious as relationships, time, and appetite. Besides it caught my interest to have read recent research that afternoon naps can make you smarter.

Don’t you agree that it is that exact time after you have just taken lunch that you feel most sleepy? The psychology research says that it can improve your memory and other mental abilities. This is due to the scientific reason that the time after lunch is when the brain is at a very low point and is wanting to rest.

Hence, a lot of Americans envy those who live in Latin America and other Asian countries like the Philippines who carry out the concept of taking a siesta. With that, I feel grateful too for working homebased. Which office would allow you to take naps as part of your working schedule? Maybe in Google, who knows.

These naps can go from 45 to 90 minutes to make you perform better throughout the day. This should make corporate people think twice about firing their employees who take quick naps while at work. And this should make kids like Pio value the time they are given to get to sleep in the afternoon. And also, make me be convinced all the more why Dori is as tall as she is.