Monday, May 9, 2011

Just When You Think You Hate Your Mother Or Your Mother Hates You



Remembering our mothers should not be just done each time there is a cause to celebrate Mother’s Day. If you can say I love you freely to your mother or you can hug her anytime, then you are so privileged. But for those who have unhealed relationships with their mother, I know how difficult the process can be. However, it is all worth it when you reach reconciliation.

As a blossoming woman, I can remember a lot of times when I argued a lot with my mother. Didn’t we all reach that point in our lives when we feel that they are trying to control us too much? Now, that I am ‘just like’ a mother to Pio, I actually understand that it was just my mother’s way of intruding in my life to stay connected with her own child. The lesson: Do not take it personal.

When you experience a shift of perspective in your life, you can expect a lot of good difference coming your way. There is nothing wrong for a child to express how they feel towards anything that they disagree about with their parents. In fact, you must congratulate yourself once you see them talking about how they feel. But this does not mean that you should let your children walk over you too and for parents to push your kids around.

It is way much better when it comes to my relationship with my mother right now. The anger that we may have felt for each other was just part of expressing acceptance toward the normal process of finally separating. But once we found ourselves already comfortable with my growing independence as her daughter, we then became close again.

Hope everyone had a nice and sweet Mother’s Day!


Thursday, May 5, 2011

Thief in the Night



It is certainly hard to hit the right sense of balance in life; especially when it involves raising a kid who will soon become a stubborn adult like all of us. Lately, I have been getting things from Pio without his knowledge which I think he does not value much. And I have been constantly in the lookout for his possible reactions, attitude, and behavior with what could have been happening around him.

My guess is that he knows I may have kept some of his things already but he just does not want to bring the issue up because of pride. There are just some people out there in the world who always want other people around them feel that they are doing fine even if they aren’t.

Apart from the desire of seeing Pio learn from such things and instances, I find myself learning so much more too. Many of us fail to appreciate and give value even to the small things that we have in our lives. That is why I feel grateful and mature that even the smell of clean sheets, old books, seeing Dori sleep in a big, lifted bed, Tita enjoying our flat TV, Pio already enrolled for school, or the sight of my dogs happily strolling around the house well fed and healthy – all these and more make me feel happy grateful. This is probably because we stumble upon happiness only when we find meaning.

Procrastination is not just the thief of time. It’s the thief of meaning, our happiness and life itself. – Timothy A. Pychyl

No wonder God is also described in the Bible as a thief in the night. It says that Jesus is to come back like a thief in the night, when you least expect it. What would you do if one day you’d wake up to a day that all the things and people you often disregarded and failed to appreciate and value are taken away from you? Just like that, in a snap of a finger.

Or maybe by the time you have finished reading this entry, you are already decided to review your life quick and get back all that once was yours.






Monday, May 2, 2011

Easy, Sleepy Mondays



If there is a problem to deal with Mondays is that we are too sleepy to get up, start the week and work. It is just such a blessing to sleep especially when you would look back on days when life’s problems keep you awake for several days. I believe it is as precious as relationships, time, and appetite. Besides it caught my interest to have read recent research that afternoon naps can make you smarter.

Don’t you agree that it is that exact time after you have just taken lunch that you feel most sleepy? The psychology research says that it can improve your memory and other mental abilities. This is due to the scientific reason that the time after lunch is when the brain is at a very low point and is wanting to rest.

Hence, a lot of Americans envy those who live in Latin America and other Asian countries like the Philippines who carry out the concept of taking a siesta. With that, I feel grateful too for working homebased. Which office would allow you to take naps as part of your working schedule? Maybe in Google, who knows.

These naps can go from 45 to 90 minutes to make you perform better throughout the day. This should make corporate people think twice about firing their employees who take quick naps while at work. And this should make kids like Pio value the time they are given to get to sleep in the afternoon. And also, make me be convinced all the more why Dori is as tall as she is.





Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Our Dogs’ First Road Stop: Zambales

A few years ago, I remember myself turning down Dori each time she would tell me to go for an outing with Pio or other friends who would also bring their own kids.  It was one of our leading topics for our arguments that seldom happen. My reason: I find our travel time together as a way to get away from all the stress of work and family life and get to reconnect with our true selves and appreciate the blessings of the Lord to us both. 

However, at the back of my mind then, it was clear to me that I only needed time to realize and prepare that I am really entering a new phase in my life – this part where I am motivated to be responsible, all the more mature, and selfless. Here comes now the time that the level of happiness me and Dori enjoy is not anymore limited to the two of us, but extends to many. It is not just with Pio this time but also with my disabled aunt Tita Ubeng and our four loving and intelligent dogs – Attack, Ready, Getsy and Go-Go. 

Here are my most favorite moments during our first road trip with the dogs as we head to Anawangin Cove. 

Subic Stop-over

Dori with our (twin-like) dogs Go-Go and Getsy

Attack's nervous look during his first boat ride

Go-Go inside her fence cage at Anawangin Cove

Getsy and Ready done eating sand :p

With the four dogs and Tita Ubeng

The trip was not perfect at all for stress was definitely here and there. In fact, I always kid Dori about comparing our situation with shows like John and Kate Plus Eight. It is that chaotic but this is where you learn and appreciate the best lessons in life you could ever learn. 

Yes, I still do miss occasionally traveling alone with Dori. But somehow, now, we do not feel more complete than spending our blessings with the family we call our own. Even if it means it is composed of a mentally retard, a reading disabled kid, and four children which all have fur and paws. 

We are blessed. 

Looking forward to more of our dog road trips.


Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Knowing When Christ Is The Center of Relationships - Part 3


You know Christ is the center of your relationship when:

3 - You set your hopes and dreams for each other on God instead of merely trusting it all on each other.

Both of you should not solely rely on each other all the time to pray to God for the relationship to work. You alone are responsible and accountable enough to help the relationship work by planting more on your faith, so that you would have so many good things to share to each other.

There are simply holes in any kind of relationship that we could never mend no matter how hard we try or put in. This is to serve as proof that for these holes, God is the only one who can take the place of mending and filling them up. God loves us more than anyone of us can love others.

How could any relationship be better than loving each other and being aware of how grateful you should both be to the Lord for allowing you to spend life together?



Monday, February 14, 2011

Your Valentine's Messages!

It's time for some Cheese!

From: Mike

To: Sheree

Valentines Message:

If I were to buy you a bunch of roses, I would place a plastic one in the middle, then say "My love will be the last one to die". Happy Valentine's Day!


From: Aimee Coreign P. Rabanal
To: Jefferson Ong Lim




Valentines Message:

Life became life when I met you …

These pictures was taken last November 2010 in Hongkong with my boyfriend and his family. I would like to post this to show the world how much I love you and how much you mean to me.

For more than 6 years of being together and still counting, my love hasn't changed and it just grows everyday despite the distance and differences. Your the one who makes me believe that everything is possible, that no religion or culture and even in miles can make someone stop from loving a person. We grew together and became a better person as we put God in the center of our relationship, that's the reason that makes us holding into each others hands, until forever.

Hon, Thanks for being my best friend, my true friend and my boyfriend. Thanks for always standing by me. Your the person I count on. Since, I'll be leaving the country after a month, I want to say this.. I”ll be always thinking of you. I promise I will always be your hon. Please wait for me...

I love you so much.. Always take care of my heart :) xoxo


From: Roby
To: Cel

You brighten my day with the sound of your voice, you bring so much laughter and love, you are everything to me and I was so blessed when God sent you here for me. Glad I was married to you! Happy Valentine's!




Monday, February 7, 2011

Knowing When Christ Is The Center of Relationships - Part 2



You know Christ is the center of your relationship when:

2 – You do not fall in love. You walk in love, together. (holding hands in the spirit)

Many people usually stumble upon the wrong perspective that you date around and find someone to be in a relationship – only to replace the last one you were with. We forget to think that every new person we meet is like having a brand new book you are so interested to read and know how things will turn out to be in the end. 

This just means that when you date, you must go out with someone whom you are ‘considering’ to be spending the rest of your life with. Of course, others may say that living that kind of dating life is hard, idealistic and full of pressure. Henceforth we placed quotation marks around the word considering. This means that you should not just get a relationship. You should be in it. 

One of the most important things compatibility factors you should consider is that desire for God to be in the midst of your relationship. That is one most people forget to take note of. As a couple, you must build up each other’s faith and you can start by simple encouragements that go a long way. 

If you do not want your relationship to stumble, then you better not start with ‘falling’ in love when you can love better by ‘walking’ in love. 

*to be continued



Friday, January 14, 2011

Knowing When Christ Is The Center of Relationships - Part 1



This blog is upon Dori’s request for me to talk about how one can tell if you have Christ right in the center of your relationship. As what I have told her as well, it would not be that simple to answer and this might lead me to writing a very long blog entry. Hence, we shall make my perception on this as a series of blog entries for the coming days – so as to be consistent with not overwhelming you with too much too chew just on a single day. 

You know Christ is the center of your relationship when:

1 -You concentrate on being the right person instead of finding the right person for you.
It can take you forever in searching for the right person you have always dreamed of and still end up alone. You should focus yourself instead on God’s love and how you can be an effective channel of that love to someone who can be special to you. When you have Jesus in the center of your relationship, you are mindful that the definition of God’s love for you is not searching of how someone else can make you feel. If you do not have God’s love within you first, then it is quite impossible for you to love someone else too. If you love Him first and make Him the center of your life, then He would give you the love of your life without even wasting a drop of a sweat. 

"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." Matthew 6:33

*to be continued



Monday, January 10, 2011

Dealing With Cheating



‘Cheating’ can be such a dreaded word to many. We may find a lot of suggestions especially from married couple on how you would handle cheating in relationships, but the truth is that there is no wrong or right answer to it. There are those who never get past the denial stage while some choose a confrontation, forgive and move on. But even the most successful relationships that have forgiven and forgotten still somehow end up in a certain pattern of infidelity. There are others who just simply walk out of the relationship.

The best thing one can do is to take full responsibility for your choice of a partner. Admit it. You may have at one point valued other things above your happiness as a couple. Maybe you have been way too clingy and hard to accept the truth. 

We are not saying that you have yourself to blame above all these. What we mean with taking responsibility is being able to stand up for the role you take in the relationship, take of note of all the lessons learned, forgive and move on, way away from it. You must be able to grow from the experience of loving and that is by learning how to shift from just seeing your relationship with partner as mere attachment but also to an abundant life full of peace of mind, joy and security. 

The key in steering away from cheating in relationships is to figure out the kind of connection you are comfortable with. You should be able to recognize what would work best for you since everyone is unique. And if at one point in your life, you have cheated or been cheated, remember the lessons it taught you. Most often the best lessons in life are the ones that result to total heartbreak.


We wish everyone relationships that are abundant in love and peace this 2011!

*Photo via google images

Monday, December 27, 2010

Healthy Relationships for the New Year 2011


As new beginnings come with the New Year, the journey that we have taken have gradually led us closer to understanding what relationships are truly about. Even while understanding that this world that we live in can be understandably unstable, we cannot help but sometimes be visited with winds of fears and insecurities. Relationships are truly hard enough and issue that come blind us like sandstorms can truly push us away from each other if we will not be strong enough to persist. 

Here are some of the simplest lessons we can share on how you can overcome your fears and be able to come up with a very healthy relationship

Create Your Own Definition of What’s Normal. You must stop looking at others and how others successfully live and create their relationships. You must stop doubting if you are doing things right or wrong, or whether you are odd or normal. Just settle for what works for the two of you. 


Consider Your Relationship As A Project. It needs work, time – and lots of these two! Trust may be hard to invest on and hence do it in a very slow manner. Allow it to grow naturally through time for things are much better learned if you both have the willingness to share. 

Put a Halt On Lying. Some may really find this as a god way to avoid problems, issues and conflicts – but believe me; it will just catch up with you in the long run, as a much stronger force, which makes things much worse too. 

Have the Courage to Stop Basing Your Decisions Upon Others’ Approval  Or With What Feels Safe. It is about time that you see things that happen in your relationship within yourself too. If you will fail to believe yourself and practice standing your ground, then it would be impossible too to believe and see that is within your partner in life.

To have a healthy relationship requires a lot of daily perseverance. In the coming year, we might find ourselves struggling, making mistakes and feelings utterly discouraged at times. But we are hoping that all of us would see the relationships that we have in our lives as the source of love, light, trust, happiness, security, sharing growth and the other joys that we desire. Besides, we will never know if we will never take the challenge. You will never have the love you want if you are always afraid to die for it.

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